'More To Love' premiere: Dating show or poundsploitation?

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Did you watch More To Love? Brought to you by the man who offered us The Bachelor, wily producer Mike Fleiss, More To Love gave us Luke Conley, a 26 year-old husky fella, who’ll be winnowing down a passel of plus-size gals.

I’ve watched The Bachelor occasionally, am no great follower of dating-genre TV, so ended up I liking More To Love on its own goofy, summer-vacation level. Luke isn’t smarmy. He’s a bit of a salesman (he does something in real estate, so he probably can’t help it), but one key to staying with a show like this is rooting for the person doing the picking, and so far, I’d like to see Luke fall for a nice person.

But who? More To Love allowed its bevy of women to emerge from cars with their weight in pounds printed below their names, a tacky touch, but then, what did I expect,  In Treatment? Some of them seemed a little bitter (wondered one bluntly, why do guys “love the skinny bitches?”), some a tad sad (a woman who proclaimed she’d “never had a second date”).

More To Love suffers from the usual garish visual tropes: the arrival of the contestants, the awkward kissy-huggy greetings, the settling in to a house that looks as though it was decorated by Lady Ga-Ga’s fussy chihuahua. One dull spot last night: Emme, the famous plus-size model, doesn’t add much as host, or at least she didn’t in the premiere, seeming awkward and maybe a tad nervous. I’ve seen her in interviews where she comes off smart and funny, so perhaps she’ll settle in. Anyway, she can’t be a worse presenter than, say, the shrill toothpick they hired for Top Chef Masters, right?

Did you watch More To Love? Do you think it handles its premise well, or that it exploits or condescends to its love-hungry contestants?

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  • Laura K.

    I watched about the first 20 minutes and turned it off. As a happily married plus-size woman myself, I awaited the arrival of this show with an odd mix of hope and disgust. I really hoped that the show would be humanizing to these women, that it would show women who loved themselves and were just as confident and energetic as all those skinny girls. Instead, we got a pity parade–women hardly even into plus-sized territory sobbing over the fact that they’d never had a boyfriend. So now, instead of rooting for these women for who they are, we feel sorry for them for what they’ve been through. To be fair, there were a few larger women and a few who projected real confidence, but the overall tone was incredibly maudlin and, yes, condescending. For a show that actually seems to have something positive to say about plus-sized women, I can’t recommend Lifetime’s Drop Dead Diva and its star Brooke Elliott highly enough.

  • Terri

    As a plus size woman myself, I really enjoyed it. Seiing those woman made me realie that I am a bit if a shrinking violet.

  • CA

    No, No, NO. At first I thought “Well, these women have decided to do this, thus they want to. No need for me to feel sorry for them or like they are being exploited.” But I just can’t. This show’s main objective is to make the rest of America feel better about itself. Say what you want about biggest loser and dance your ass off, at least those shows have a positive aim…this show’s pretty much based off the premise ‘big girls need lovin too’…tacky.

    • Kelly

      All the Bachelor type shows are tacky

      • m

        Yes, all the Bachelor shows are tacky, thanks to Fleiss. He doesn’t know class, doesn’t have class and will produce ANYTHING for the MONEY.

  • Al

    I’ve been SO waiting for this show so that I can have my rant about the ad campaign. I happen to be 5′ 9″ and wear somewhere between a 4 and an 8 (love that word stretch) According to this show, I’m not a real woman. I beg to differ- I just happen to be blessed with great genes. Then I watched. Quite a few of these women weren’t “real” either. They are plagued with poor self-image and a general sense of unworthiness. How sad. If you are going to be on a show called “More to Love” and allow your weight to be broadcast to the nation, then you better be happy in your own skin.

    • Sam

      Darlin’Al, not sure which “real world” you are living in as a “real woman”…but most females have insecurities about their looks whether “fat” or skinny…and some are insecure about their actual worth. These women are real – well as real as they can be for “reality” tv – many real women are insecure! Aside from that peeps, almost all reality tv is exploitive and tacky…that’s why most people watch it! Sad but true. xo

    • EARTH

      I totally agree with you on this. My thing is why did they have to broadcast their weight and height, what does that matter, we can see that their shell is thick. I do not get that.

      • Desi

        I completely agree with the height and weight thing…I realize it’s a show about “big girls” but how humiliating. Not even skinny girls want their weight broadcast to the whole world.
        I think including plus size people on TV is a great idea because it does represent America to have all shapes and sizes included, but here they are just exploiting their weight. Instead of “finding love” in spite of their weight, the show is saying “hey look, its fat people…they fall in love too?”

      • Jessica

        So true. The fact that they posted their weight and height disgusts me. If you want to pretend to be the bacholor for plus size people, then why post height and weight? They don’t do that on the regular bacholor show. Ughh… so disappointed!

  • RayRay

    This show disgusted me. Nothing but fat girls crying over their lack of love. Give me a break!!
    These girls need to be encouraged to have some more pride and more confidence and not air out their dirty laundry and personal feelings of inferiority on national television.

    I am a fat girl…not chubby, not slightly overweight….I’m straight up fat. I have NO problem getting a date or finding a man that is into me….you know why?? Because I’m not projecting myself as undesirable. Who wants a partner who doesn’t think they are good enough??? Besides, finding a man who LOVES me and who I LOVE in return is hard for me, but it’s hard for EVERYONE. NOT JUST US FAT GIRLS!!!
    And what’s with calling these women REAL? ALL women are REAL no matter if they are a size 2 or size 28.

    I am disappointed in these women. Most of them don’t seem to like themselves too much. How do they expect to find love if they aren’t loving themselves??
    Ugh…reality shows are pitiful.
    ps…..has there been a couple who found each other on one of these matchmaking reality shows that has stayed together??? I’m guessing NO.

    • Stephanie

      RayRay, you are seriously my new best friend, because you took the words RIGHT out of my mouth. lol It drives me crazy that the entire episode was driven by one woman or another crying about how their weight has held them back – well, I’m a size 26, and I have never had a shortage of dates and am married to a man who LOVES my body and my self-esteem. I will NOT let what everyone else thinks rule over my life and my happiness.

      I hate that they are using their weight as an excuse not to live their life to the fullest – they’ll wake up and regret that one day.

      And as a fellow fat girl, THANK YOU for using the correct term. ;D

      • rad

        I am totally with you both! I have been every size from a 2 to a 20 and back. Those women have such an opportunity to make such a positive impact. I watched it with my 2 teenage sons, I wanted them to get a different perspective on people than the entertainment industry projects, I was dissapointed, I do not know why they listed their weight, but at least they listed their height too. (I hope people noticed that….some of those women were quite tall.)

        anyway, I agrr 100%

    • Jessica

      Trista and Ryan are still together from the bachelorette!

    • EARTH

      RayRay, I totally agree with you regarding the statement they use REAL WOMEN, all women are REAL

    • MST

      RayRay, I love you. You go girl!

    • Marie

      I agree. As a fat girl myself, this show horrified me. I’ve been dating an amazing guy for four years… and yes, I met him before I gained the weight, but I know he loves me anyway. I’m embarrassed to see these women portrayed in a way that makes them look desparate and unlovable — because if they are desparate and unlovable, are aren’t all fat people? (Or so viewers might think). I’ll keep watching, but just for the motivation to workout and be healthier.

    • allydayle

      Right on, RayRay!!! I agree 100%. I am a size 28 and have found love and marriage to a wonderful guy. I thought the show was going to be about women who are confident and all they did is sit there and cry. It was ridiculous. Hardly any of them exuded any real confidence.

    • Jen

      I can’t agree more. I had several complaints about the show that I had been looking forward to with trepidation, but my main concern, which I might add came true, was that they would do nothing but show the winey girls that make us all look like victims. I won’t lie, I am a size 28 and I have been one of those girls before that was the wounded victim that could not get why I never could have a lasting, fulfilling relationship with anyone I was interested in. However, I grew up and realized that until I love myself I will never be in a lasting, fulfilling relationship. There were a couple of girls on there that I was really routing for that got cut and a couple that stayed but I am sad to see that many of the “victims” stayed and will probably leave with another “victim” story under thier belt.
      I am a happy single plus size gal who figured out that my self worth does not lie soley on if a guy likes me/thinks I am attractive/wants to date me, my worth comes from me and now I am afraid that this show will communicate to the plus size young girls that you still need to have the love of a guy/girl to have value instead of looking for it in yourself.

      • Margaret

        I agree with you Jen. If the guy can only see what is on the outside and doesn’t want to get to know who you are inside is obviously not a guy worth wanting to know. I say love you, respect you and don’t let anyone take that from you.

    • dmbjewel

      Yes, trista and ryan from the first bachelorette are still together and have 2 kids.

  • Divid Lavely

    Some of the BMWs, gave me mad wood, but it quickly vinquished when I prongectured on the likely attendant faint whiff of cheese. A bit drunker, I theorize, and much of the self-pitying diametrics other posturers complained about would likely too be vinquished. I’m a regular american mhale, so I relate, but exploit? I wouldn’t apprehend it! Great food for thought!

    • cynthia

      Prongectured? Vinquish? And a BMW is a car.

  • heart

    THIS FRIST TIME SEE THIS SHOW. IT IS VERY NICE THOUGHT KIND SIZE INSTEAD THIN LADY BUT THEY SIZE ARE BEATUIFUL WOMAN NO MATTER THEIR SIZE JUST HEART INSIDE OR OUT SIDE.. I THINK LUKE GOOD CHOICE ALOTS EASY TO TREAT LADY BUT DO NOT WANT HEARTBROKEN ANY LADY CHOOSE TO LUKE HAS RIGHT WOMAN CHOOSE WHEN HE ABLE FALLING IN LOVE AGAIN.. I WISH SO TOO.. IT SO HARD FOR ME SOME REASON ABOUT DEAF AND HOH FIND SEARCH FOR MEN SIZE OR MUSLES DOES MATTER TO ME LOOKING FOR FURTURE MARRAIGE.. I CAN’T THINK RIGHT ONE I HAVEN’T DATE ANYONE YET .. ONE THING NOT AFAIR FOR DEAF AND HOH WHY NOT SHOW YOUR PLACE GOOD IDEA.. DOES MATTER TO YOU OR NOT… I AM TIRED WAIT SOMEBODY RIGHT ONE ABLE FIX GET MARRIED HAPPY AGAIN FOR ME… WHERE IS 20 GUYS ARE DEAF AND HOH WHY NOT OR DO YOU AGREE OR NOT?

  • justine

    Funny how a show trying to prove a point that love comes in all sizes CONSTANTLY BROUGHT UP THE WEIGHT OF THE WOMEN! My mouth literally dropped open when I saw the “stats” of the women were shown! What the HELL were the producers thinking?! I’ve never seen any of the height and weight stats shown on the Bachelor or Bachelorette. I for one will NOT be watching this show. DISGUSTING, SAD and PATHETIC are the words that come to mind when I think of the way the producers have taken a long awaited reality tv show concept and evolved it into the one thing this show didn’t have to focus on. I wanted to see real people with real bodies fall in love. Not clever clips of chubby women crying about not being loved or a shot of a woman trying to help another women squeeze into a gown. This is what you do for ratings? DISGUSTING, SAD and PATHETIC

  • Kimberly

    It is about flippin time that they put a show on that I can relate to!!! I always have watched the Bachelor and wished that I could have that chance to mean someone like that, but who would dare….I would be off in the first round 90% of the time. I am so excited to watch this! THANK YOU!!!

  • La

    Man, I have to say I’m a little disgusted with this show so far. The comercials projected these women as confident and strong, when in reality most of them are anything but. It takes a pretty self conscious woman to bash so called ‘skinny bitches’ on tv. Is that supposed to represent confidence? If I was any of those women’s ‘skinny bitch’ friends, I’d be a little pissed at them right now. Keeping within a healthy weight is not abnormal, despite these women trying to convince themselves that it is. That’s not the most pc thing to say though. Apparently it’s ok for overweight women to bash thin women, but when the opposite happens, the thin girl is a conceited bitch.

    There, I feel better :)

    • to La

      Thanks, La, you bring up a good point. Why is it ok for them to bash somebody because of their weight, but ohhhh, if the tables are turned…….

  • markus

    I can’t take a fat woman seriously when she calls herself plus-sized, chubby, curvaceous, etc…

    This is coming from a guy who’s the same size as the dude in the show. If I’m taking a fat chick out on a date, and she calls herself one of those politically correct lies. I’ll get up and leave while she’s still gnawing on her dinner.

    • Stinkfist

      Thanks for letting everyone know what a jerk you are.

    • rad

      if she calles herself fat , are you coll with that?

    • Me

      Why would any woman talk about their weight on dates? BORING! I would say the women Markus dates should call herself “lucky” if he gets up and walks away!

  • SJ

    I looked forward to watching the show, but was disgusted by how the women’s weight was displayed on the screen when they made a comment on a clip! UGHH! They don’t do that to women on The Bachelor! WHY would they do it to these women on this show? To degrade them! It really is truly sad & turned me off to the show! Only one word comes to mind: exploitation!

  • LJB

    Ok first of all, Divid Lavely, you f****** suck…wrong usage on pretty much every “big word” you tried to spew. Second, this show is so f****** hilarious, it is sickening! Cheers to the Fleiss for giving everyone some good old THINSPIRATION! WHOOOOO!!! Now if you’ll excuse me, I have to go do some pushups and throw up, because this show was nauseating.

    • Divid Lavely

      I suck asterisks you say– sounds like you got your sweet, luscious BMW extraimpounded and fatty labia is lost to you– such a trambisty! And doing push-ups over a blow-up fatty doll will not help you regain your mequilibium, neither will Valerie, not Kristy. The problem with big words is people like Long Jowls Bowser here sweathugging them into smallness, then claiming to loathe giants whilst secretly craving them.

      The BMWs on this show are serious hypocrites in the sense that they could get plenty of men, but insist on having a choice in the looks of their own partner. They gather in the room, gushing over how his eyes look, etc., Thus, they are guilty–or wish they could be– of the very shallow behavior they lament being directed to them.

      You keep doing those ‘shups junior– unfortunately they won’t help with your intelligence. Huff… Good! Now puff… Very good.

  • miira

    I just watched this show after being a fan of The Bachelor. Being a size 12 myself I was looking forward to a show with “real women” and after watching was left thinking that these women suffer from serious body and self-confidence issues and are in need of real therapy. If you can’t love yourself, no one will love you either. Sex appeal is 90% attitude. At least 90% of these woman need an attitude adjustment before seeking a long term relationships.

  • Another Big Guy

    I was expecting one of the “”discarded”” to fall to her knees and beg for just one more chance PLEASE!!

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